Unfriend

I would have been naive to think all my relationships would be the same once I added a baby to my life. I knew some friendships would require additional effort to maintain. But I have been surprised, both by the relationships that have blossomed and those that are really struggling.

I have found camaraderie with other women based simply in the fact that we're both mothers. I have found that having a baby has helped me better understand friends of mine who ventured down the road of motherhood before me. (duh?). That has made us closer and enriched my life. And sadly, I have a few friendships that seem to be dying, despite my best efforts.

I feel most blessed by the relationships that haven't changed at all. Even with women that don't yet have children. It is those friendships I cherish most. Because those friends are the ones who appreciate that, while my life situation has changed and I may have less time, I am fundamentally still the same person. I can still relate to their lives, even though ours are different now.

Of course the dying ones make me sad. I miss my friends. I miss the laughter I shared with them. I even miss the tears we shared. I miss mutual understanding and reciprocity.

But I will dwell on it only here and not a second longer. Because PB will win Every. Single. Time. And he only makes me better.